New Year’s Resolutions: How To Set Goals for Yourself
Happy New Year!
So many resolutions fall through by February, so I want to show you a different way. Ready?
Ditch the “New Year, New You” propaganda.
Think back to what you vowed to do last January. Did you want to lose 20 pounds? Workout every day? Eat fewer calories?
Resolutions are often about self-improvement in a way that isn't loving or compassionate. They're about being “better,” and "fixing" what's "wrong." Can you relate?
Have you already come up with your list of problems that you need to fix this year?
Traditional resolutions are rooted in thinking that you're not good enough the way you are. That you'll be happier when you change.
I ditched resolutions a few years ago. This doesn't mean that I don't have goals, but I go about reaching them in a different way. Let me explain.
Set intentions instead of resolutions.
Instead, I start with intentions guided by how I want to feel. Intentions come from a place of self-love and self-compassion. They don't tie you to particular outcomes. Rather, they set the tone for what you're looking to call in to your life—your goals, your dreams, your visions. Sound good?
I find it helpful to think of intentions as a few keywords or themes. While the pressure to shrink your body is constant year-round. January is the month of diets. 🤢
Setting intentions that focus on how you want to feel can free you from the idea that you need to achieve a weight loss goal. Simple, right?
How do you set intentions?
Before setting any intentions that are forward-looking, you should look back.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of always moving on to the next thing. First, think about what you want to celebrate from the past year. What do you want more of?
Now, tap into how you want to feel moving forward.
Do you want to feel calm? Passionate? Energetic? Vibrant? Do you want to feel joyful?
Your emotions are so powerful. Sitting for a minute or two and tapping into how you want the year to feel is a powerful way to plan.
Work backwards from those feelings. What actions or activities can you do? Can you reverse engineer some intentions that will get you to those feelings?
Let me know if this exercise is helpful. What keywords or feeling did you come up with?
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Meet Ellen Kaross (she/her), the Non-Diet Nutritionist and Intuitive Eating Coach behind The Good Yolk.
Ellen helps women-identifying folks uncover what their emotional eating can teach them, and find joy and balance in their relationship with food.
Her passion for advocacy informs her compassionate, non-judgmental approach.